As a straight parent, you probably will find his announcement shocking, painful, and off-putting. Try not to respond with volcanic anger, silence or remarks negating his/her same-sex orientation. Remember that it is a supreme compliment that your child has revealed his private life and inner self even though it means the loss of your expectations for what you thought was a heterosexual child. Be patient with your self and your child. Contain your withered hopes. While you may not accept your child being gay at first, that’s okay. With time and support, you may later not only come around but celebrate your child’s orientation. So, muzzle your disappointment.